Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

Of course I’m going to see Sex and the City 2, probably a couple of times with various friends over the course of its first week (which is why the first movie grossed so much, everyone did the same thing I did). As the sequel’s opening day (May 27th) gets closer, its television trailers have gotten a little longer, they’re releasing a book to showcase all the fashion and now, nine clips have popped up on the Web.

You can only expect so much from the movie versions of the hit HBO show namely because the franchise itself has become so commercialized. I miss the HBO real-life advice Sex and the City where the characters had epiphanies, made terrible mistakes and summed up life over brunch with their friends. The show reminded me of the woman-talk sessions my mom used to have with her friends and sisters. I was so little but there was something so intriguing about those conversations that I’d do anything to be able to eavesdrop. I remember listening through the vents downstairs to the kitchen- yes, it was really that serious. And as I got older, I learned those conversations- with your girlfriends- was where you decided to break-up, get divorced, get married, dish about sex and find out if the things you were experiencing were normal. The guys watched football and played golf and the girls chatted.

Even though Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda didn’t look like me or like the vast majority of women (I looked up to and eavesdropped on their conversations)- they had substance. Seasons 1-6 cultivated countless situations and slogans that beg for reference in real life. I can’t tell you how many urban relationship myths, Jack Burger’s and “Big” loves my girls and I have come across. We learned that while waiting for marriage is quite noble, it could also land you in a divorce. We learned the type of guys we wanted, hello Smith, and the type of guys we’d dump…like the one who raped Charlotte’s face.

We could see that while Samantha’s sexual inhibition was funny and applaudable on screen, her behavior in real life meant she was a whore. Not because she liked sex but because, if you’ll remember, she didn’t always protect herself. We learned that the guy you think you want might not be the one who’s best for you…Big vs. Aidan or Harry vs. Trey.

In the new movie franchise (1 and 2), friendship becomes the selling point trumping men and babies, making them merely accessories in addition to the lives we already have. HBO’s version was more realistic to me in which the girls were on a mission to “have it all” after all, having it all is what makes being a woman so much fun.

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French model Noemie Lenoir, 30, who turned herself into a household name in the UK after landing an advertising campaign for Marks & Spencer, was found unconscious in the forest on the outskirts of Paris near her ex-boyfriend’s house. She was found lying next to a pile of pills and an empty liquor bottle and is recovering from her suicide attempt in a hospital.

Why, you ask? All of the reports speculate that her unhappiness stemmed from some drama with a man. Whether it was her ex-boyfriend and father of her five-year-old son, Claude Makelele (the ex-Chelsea football star) or her new love, multi-millionaire Carl Hirschmann, who is currently battling his way through a sex and extortion scandal in Switzerland— Noemie had boy drama.

And while I know that being beautiful and rich doesn’t equate to happiness, I have a hard time comprehending how a woman who looks like this (see below) can have such little esteem that she would attempt suicide, possibly leaving her little boy without a mother. It would have been a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Recently another beautiful woman by the name of Naomi Campbell went on Oprah to talk about her drug abuse and how at one point she didn’t know if she would make it to her 40th birthday. Her story and tears about her own insecurities proved that once again, sometimes the most successful people can end up being the most unhappy.

No one knows what goes on in the recesses of someone’s mind or what happens in their personal lives, but what I do know is that a strong sense of self-worth is paramount. And that self-worth has nothing to do money or other external factors.

But apparently, it does have something to do with the men one allows themselves to get tangled up with.

Claude says he had no idea of Noemie’s state of mind but while she drowning in alcohol and popping pills, he was picking up a lifetime achievement award in central France.

I wish Noemie a swift recovery and the wisdom to re-evaulate the people and things in her life. Sounds like it was a cry for help and I hope someone’s listening.

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